Thursday, May 31, 2012

Surround yourself

The best kind of reflection is the one clear enough to see your friends in the background.



Reflecting is something I don't think we do enough.  Often times the urgency to get things done creates a ripple effect that interrupts the beauty of what's really important.  Grocery shopping, a new chapter, laundry, blogging; my list of what I wanted to get done was long this weekend.

But sometimes it's just nice to stop.....

And say Thank you to those who are always behind me!



So thank you Erika!

I'm sorry I meant:  THANK YOU ERIKA! 


Erika is one of those amazing, sweet, sincere, special people you only meet once in a lifetime.  She understands what I want out of life, she cheers me up even when I'm being pissy, and she always laughs at my jokes (even the bad ones).  She is always there to tell me I can do it, always there to help me in any way she can, and never asks for anything in return.

As a pre-published author, surrounding yourself with amazing, supportive, like-minded people is priceless.  Like those awesome Mastercard commercials:

Writing a book: Computer, comfy chair, and fuzzy socks
Revising a book: Blood, sweat, and tears
Trying to find an agent: More blood, sweat, and tears

Having a friend to help burn your rejection letters: Priceless.

So I guess my advice for this week is - befriend a pyromaniac!?!?!!

- Toni


(**Disclaimer: No rejection letters were harmed in the process of writing this blog, thinking of content for this blog, or typing up this blog.  In no way, shape, or form is Erika Bushman a pyromaniac, fire starter, or candle addict like Toni.**)  



Tuesday, May 29, 2012

Everybody Needs a little Zibble

Some friends and I have been doing homeschool pre-school. We decided to "do it ourselves" because the desired pre-school has a VERY long wait list. After two school years, my son still hasn't made it in!  We finally gave up and formed our own preschool. It's been so fun to (to have my house completing destroyed every couple of weeks) teach and do crafts with the kids. Our "just look something up on the internet" curriculum is simple enough and the kids are at a really fun age!

On the last day, the day before the SCBWI's writers conference, I had nothing. I'd been so busy preparing for the conference, I failed to prepare for preschool. My son was really excited because it was the last day of preschool and it was "Z" day. He was sure it was going to be a "pretty awesome" day. As preschool time grew closer, more I felt a big ole FAIL coming on. Grrrrr! Self-inflicted pressure is never fun!

The kids would be here very soon and I had no idea what we're gonna do. I finally just gave up! Who cares! It's the last day. We'll read some books, sing some songs then they can just play. I've got too much on my plate to worry about! The stress is killing me! I'm going to be a mess at the conference!

I started to put some basic crafts supplies on the table. Construction paper, pipe cleaners, paints, crayons, brightly colored puff balls and goggly eyes.  My eyes lingered on the puffs balls and goggly eyes. Something clicked. I'll make Zibbles! What a Zibble is....I didn't really know but it was "Z" day so it had to work.

I hot glue gunned eyes to puff balls and soon had a village of Zibbles. They actually turned out really cute! Big mama and daddy Zibbles, tinny-tiny little baby Zibbles and lots of other kid Zibbles in various sizes. We had a A-B-C hunt for find the little guys and the kids had a blast! They had more fun with those Zibbles then any other craft we've made.



It's amazing what inspiration came after I gave up. My mother-in-law has written several books and she loves to say "If I never gave up, I'd never get anywhere." She is a very wise and quotable woman! I could devote a blog to all the practical and cool advice she gives. Anyway, sometimes we just have to take a step back, take a big deep breath and start again.

My very awesome co-blogger, the amazing Toni, wrote how she was thinking of quitting. She was at a point of frustration and feeling super overwhelmed. At that darkest moment, one little thing touched her and changed her whole perspective. It just takes one thing...one little Zibble!

So give up...for a little bit. Quit...give yourself some breathing room. Come back and conquer the world! Find your own little Zibbles!!

P.S. The kids and I are writing a adventure book about Zibbles!

Monday, May 28, 2012

Motivation Monday

"What we need is not the will to believe, but the wish to find out."
- Bertrand Russell

Thursday, May 24, 2012

SCBWI Conference - Putting yourself out there

Anyone who knows me, knows that I am a bit of a wallflower.

I wear plain colored clothes, I avoid almost all eye contact, and although I smile a lot, I'm constantly nervous as hell, and could, at any time, barf all over you.  With that said, the only other thing you need to know before reading this blog is that I am afraid of rubber chickens.  Yes.  I said I am AFRAID of rubber chickens. 

 

Okay, in my defense it's not the rubber chicken themselves (God bless their little, hollow, plastic souls) that I'm afraid of, it's what they represent, and worse - what they are usually used for.  

Acting. I hate it.  I loath it.  I am horrible at it.  (Do you get the idea yet?  No? - Ok then, let's just say I was SO good at acting that in Junior High the drama teacher immediately asked me to go help the props people! I remember she said something about people wouldn't be able to hear me if I whispered and hiding behind other actors made it hard for the audience to see me.  Whatever.) 

So moving on.  This last weekend was the SCBWI Conference.  (Society of Children's Book Writers & Illustrators)  My wonderful, talented, supportive, funny co-blogger Erika and I attended.  Originally I thought how great it was going to be already knowing someone at the conference - that was until I realized we wouldn't be in any of the classes together (she writes PB and I write MG and YA) :(

Oh.  I lied.  The other thing you need to know about me is that I am an accommodator. Those unlucky enough to know me back in my anti-acting days, would often say I was "brown nosing" the teachers because I would invariably end up helping them with something, everything.  Honestly, it wasn't brown nosing, it was a genetic defect that left me feeling compelled to help when no one else would volunteer.

So moving on - AGAIN.    I went to my first class of my first writers conference and I sat at a table in the back, against the far wall (told you, wallflower).  The instructor came in with a bunch of props. I tried to ignore them. There was only about 15 of us in there at the time.  The instructor asked if someone was willing to help her.

(Imagine me melting into the accordion divider that separated the rooms, while having an anxiety attack, while a gallon of sweat flooded out of every pore, while nausea crawled up my throat, threatening to bring my breakfast with it - that should get you close enough to how I was feeling at that exact moment.)

So anyway, she needed 2 volunteers.  (Imagine the above again!) Finally another girl agreed (imagine the above again, simply because there was still 1 victim to be found!) Then the room got quiet and NO ONE SAID ANYTHING!!!  (YES I'M YELLING BECAUSE, DARN THOSE OTHER PEOPLE!!!)

So I am sure you can guess by now what happened.

I agreed to help - with a stipulation.  No rubber chickens. And I am sure you can guess what else happened.  Yes!  The first thing she did when the other girl and I got up to "help" was grab the rubber chicken!  Ugh.

Long story short, we're not allowed to give specifics about the conference materials but let's just say this girl and I had to act out a 12-line scene about 87 BAZILLION times.  The longer it went the sillier I got simply because my mind had gone into its self-imposed bomb shelter and left me to defend myself with sub-par acting skills.  (At one point I was to kick the rubber chicken, as if shooing away a live one - the only problem was that no one told my nerve-riddled leg anything about being gentle and, more than once, I kicked it dangerously close to my fellow classmates across the room! Seriously embarrassing)

SO what was my point?  (Ha!  Jokes on you, there isn't one!) No, there is.

There is so much to learn about writing and being an author, and a lot of it you can do by putting yourself out there.  Was I the best actor ever?  No!  NO!  (Not even close) BUT, here's the thing, I learned something about myself.  I learned that I can do it - I can put myself out there!  Conferences only come around once a year and they are full of opportunities; what I learned from that exercise, besides never trust a rubber chicken, is how to make dialogue flow - something I knew I needed to work on.

And although I was still too chicken (not a rubber chicken) to go up and talk to any of the editors and/or literary agents, I have grown, and guess what????

I have something to work on for next year's conference!

So watch out editors and literary agents attending SCBWI's Portland 2013 conference, there just might be a nervous and frightened author coming up to talk you......and who knows maybe I'll be the one to bring the rubber chicken!!

NOT!

 - Toni

Tuesday, May 22, 2012

A little word...


This weekend Toni and I went to the Society of Children's Book Writers and Illustrators conference. (SCBWI..try saying that 10x times!) This annual conference is two days of intense writing workshops, take-your-writing-to-new-levels instruction and skin toughening but so helpful critiques.  It's intelligently and emotionally draining to say the least but it just so ROCKS! No matter how tough the stretching, molding, downward writer's pose bending is …it is so worth it! This was my second conference and I believe it will be the most life changing.

In addition to the intense learning, the conference is a great opportunity to mix and mingle with editors, agents and authors. I love it because my inner voice saids "Oh yay! I'm cool! I'm hanging out with REAL authors!"  My coolness factor disappears when the conversation leads to,  "What have you written?". I always lower my voice and glance at the floor, "Well, I'm not published yet." 

Naturally, we are not allowed to write or blog about the conference subject material but there was one word mentioned that had a huge impact. During an open forum, pre-published writers  and published authors were mentioned. 

What was that?!  Rewind! PRE-published!  The word resinated in my ears. Pre-published. Pre-publish as in before or prior to. Pre-published as a forgone conclusion. Pre-published as in this really will happen! 




How could such a little prefix roller coaster flip my perspective in such a positive way? We are not NOT-published but PRE-published authors. What a happy paradigm shift! I wasn't the only one to catch this great word! Many pre-published authors stood a little taller that day. 

As the conference continued, I confidently introduced myself as a pre-published author. There are many things I took away from this last conference, but the greatest treasure was my new attitude. I may not have had the pleasure of signing a publishing contract but I'm pre-published. It will happen someday!

So when you say "I'm a writer but not published" or "I'm a writer but haven't been published yet"… STOP! If you're serious about your writing and your career…you are pre-published! It will happen if you work on your craft and perfect your writing.  Stand a little taller tenacious, pre-published author! I am!  


Monday, May 21, 2012

Motivation Monday

"A strong positive mental attitude will create more miracles than any wonder drug."
- Patricia Neal

Thursday, May 17, 2012

Do something - Dream

I was trying to find the perfect quote for Monday Motivation, one that would magically motivate everyone, even myself.  I grabbed a book of quotes I have and closed my eyes, wishing for such a quote to be there when I opened them.  This is what was there when I peeked at the book nervously:

"If a man does not know what port he is steering for, no wind is favorable to him." - Seneca

I thought about it for awhile and then I reflected on the last week.  It was a tough one.  I officially gave up on a dream.  Luckily, I was saved by someone's kind words.  Then I thought about my dream and the quote I found.

I can waste time wishing....



But if I don't know where I am going, my wishes will fall flat.

Now, I am not saying that wishes are time wasters.  In fact, I think just the opposite.  Wishes, to me, are the GPS of our dreams.  They are the fuel that drives our dreams to reality.  We need to feed our dreams.  We need to guide our dreams.  And we need to give our dreams a destination.

Just like writing an outline or synopsis, we need to give our dreams a map, a direction in which to head.  You can't expect your dreams to come true if you don't even know what your dreams are.  Do you want to write a book?  Finish a book?  Be on the NY Times Best Sellers List?  Sell more books than J.K. Rowling?  :) Hey I said dream!

Write down your dreams and then get in your boat and head in the direction of our dreams.  In order for dreams to come true, we need to DO something.  We need to write.  We need to put ourselves out there.  We need to research Literary Agents.  We need to blog.  We need to submit query letters.  Do one of them or do them all, but DO something.

Then, when your dreams happen you'll know exactly how you got there.

Tuesday, May 15, 2012

Interview with Adam Glendon Sidwell


I am delighted to introduce Adam Glendon Sidwell, author of Evertaster, his first book, which is scheduled to release this June. Adam graduated from Brigham Young University with a degree in Animation. In between books, Adam uses the power of computers to make monsters, robots and zombies come to life for blockbuster movies such as Pirates of the Caribbean, King Kong, Transformers and Tron. After spending countless hours in front of a keyboard meticulously adjusting tentacles, calibrating hydraulics, and brushing monkey fur, he is delighted at the prospect of modifying his creations with the flick of a few deftly placed adjectives. He’s been eating food since age 7, so feels very qualified to write this book. Adam currently lives in Los Angeles with his wife and baby girl.





1. Can you tell us a little about your upcoming book Evertaster?

Evertaster is a middle grade, real-world fantasy-adventure novel in the vein as Harry Potter or Percy Jackson. It’s the story of the Johnsonville kids, Guster, Mariah, and Zeke who hear about a legendary taste and go searching across the world through perils and danger just so they can try it for themselves.

They’ve got some powerful reasons for doing so, mostly to help their brother Guster, who is suffering from a serious problem: he can taste any flaw in his food, whether it’s potatoes in his mom’s casserole that were grown too far north, or what the cows ate that gave the milk in his ice cream. None of it tastes right to him.




2. Where did you find your idea and/or inspiration? 

I was browsing through the book store, when I happened upon a cookbook – the cooking aisle is a somewhat frightening place for me – I saw how thick it was, and how many other books there were like it, and thought about all the cookbooks in the whole world, and how many there must be, and how many were written over the centuries. That’s when I wondered: what are all those chefs looking for? What are they after? In science, there’s an idea that there is a grand Theory of Everything that is waiting to be discovered. What if there is was grand Recipe? The final answer to all cooking and food. From there, the Johnsonville family developed naturally, with the mom, Mabel, who feels inadequate about her abilities as a cook, and Guster, the eleven year old for whom food burns or stings his mouth and tongue as he swallows it. It made for a fun dynamic. The setting and adventure itself were inspired by some of the places I’ve had the chance to travel to. They were such interesting settings, I just had to put them into a story.

3. Who is your favorite character? Is the character based on real life experiences?

I’ll confess that my favorite character is actually Mabel, Guster’s mom. She’s humble and pure in heart, but completely dorky in the way that an 11 year-old kid finds his mom dorky – wearing aprons all day, bad jokes, she makes you do your chores. She is pure mom-ness. Mabel realizes that about herself to a certain extent, which is why she half-heartedly lets the family set out on the adventure – she wants to prove something to herself. In many ways, she is based on my mom. My mom is a kindergarten teacher, finger paints, nursery rhymes, sugary sweetness and all. My mom had never been out of the United States until just a few years ago, and that’s the case for a lot of moms who are busy raising their families.  So I wanted to see what would happen if a mom like that – Mabel – were to go on a dangerous quest around the globe. The tendency in children’s books is to write about orphans. On this point I was firm while writing – Mabel was always going to play an integral role in my book, and the kids were going to learn to deal with that, scolding and all. The family dynamic only enriched the adventure.



4. Can you tell us about your challenges getting your book published? 

Phew! There indeed were challenges. I wrote the first draft of Evertaster about four years ago. It just spilled out of me onto the keyboard, and I was just grinning at the end of many of my writing sessions, I was having so much fun. I revised it for a few months, then sent it out to agents and publishers. Most rejected me with form letters. Then, Alyssa Henkin of Trident Media Group, a really great agency in New York, responded to my query and asked to see the manuscript. I sent it and a few days later, she called to tell me she would like to represent it if I was willing to make a few changes. That phone call was incredible. I had been cooped up at my desk for so long, with grand, romantic, delusional ideas of becoming a novelist, and Alyssa called to tell me I wasn’t crazy!

Over the next 2 years we revised the manuscript together, all while I was working sometimes 60 hour weeks at my day job animating feature films. When we finally finished, five drafts later, she sent it out. The response was incredible! Publishers loved the characters, the story, the pacing, the quirky world of adventure. They told us how effortlessly they were pulled along. And this was all from the top publishers in the industry! It was tremendous validation for my secret project. There was one day when we had interest from two top publishers that would both have been a dream – the editors were ready to buy – but both deals fell through for various reasons at the last minute. I was devastated, but happy. Professionals liked my work! So a year later, when Alyssa told me that Trident was launching its own line of original ebooks, and asked me if Evertaster could be one of them, of course I said yes! So now it will be in ebook and paperback.


5. What words of advice would you give to aspiring writers?

I remember when I decided I was going to take a few months off work and write a book. I was visiting a friend’s apartment in Los Angeles, where the joke is that everyone you meet has got their screenplay that they’re writing. I told my friend that I wanted to write. He laughed at me, and said, “You and everybody else,” then pointed out the balcony window down into the alley where a homeless man was sitting next to his shopping cart with pen and binder paper in hand working on his screenplay. What was I thinking? This is the same crazy idea that everyone has.

That’s when I realized no matter what I had to work work work. And I had to finish things. Whether it’s a short story, novella, or epic fantasy series, make sure you write the last word and complete the project. If the project is too big, choose something more manageable and work up from there. You have to have something finished to show people.
Then start querying. There really are no hard and fast rules on how to get published. Each author’s publishing story is unique. But no matter what happens, if you have a finished product, that is an achievement.

Thank you Adam! We are very excited for your upcoming book and the ones to follow! Evertaster is the first of a three book series. I can't wait to get my hands on a copy and read it to my very picky 6 year old!

You can read the first chapter of Evertaster, sign up for fun giveaways (such as the Cookie Giveaway!) and watch for upcoming events:  Click here for Adam's Evertaster page on Facebook. Well worth hitting the "Like" button!

There is also an amazing video Adam posted on Mother's Day dedicating Evertaster to his mom. Very sweet video! 

Monday, May 14, 2012

Motivation Monday

"If a man does not know what port he is steering for, no wind is favorable to him."
- Seneca

Thursday, May 10, 2012

I quit!

Recently I went back to work.  It's the same old story, I had a good job, was laid off, wrote some books, and finally found another good job.   Okay, so it's not the SAME old story, but close.  Anyway, anyone whose written a book knows that getting published takes time - and a lot of it.  Now, I could sit here and re-hash what Erika and I have said over and over again - that everything will work out, and SOMEDAY we will be published.  BUT I am not going to do that (did you read the title of this blog?)

I quit.

I am giving up on my dream of being a published author.

Let me go back a few days. I started my new, full-time job on a Monday.  The first week was okay, the kids did great, homework still got done, no one died, no one starved, and no one ended up in the ER (if you knew my kids you'd laugh) The second week I had to travel to Philadelphia for training.  Obviously I had no control over kids eating, homework, or bedtime - and as usual, the kids did great (have I ever mentioned my wonderful husband??? Yah, he's awesome!) The third week, I was there 1 day before we went on a previously scheduled vacation - rough, I know.  You'd think that having a vacation so soon into the madness would have helped, and in some ways it did.

It showed me what was important.  My family.

By the time we got home and I finished my errands (Target, Costco, and groceries in a matter of 4 hours!) I had enough time to help the boys with all their homework (and speeches) that they had missed over the previous week. Somewhere in that time frame reality slapped me across the face.  I had signed up for a writer's conference and had submitted my latest YA book for a reading.  Only problem is that is isn't done.  Not even close. And now I had a little over a week to FINISH it.  And let me say - there is NO possible way that I can get this book done by then!

To top it off, I got the first chapter of another book I had written, back from someone who had taken the time to edit it.  The first thing I saw was A LOT of writing.  My brain went straight for worst case - it was horrible, there was so much to be changed, blah, blah, blah.  I was so tired from vacation and work that I put it away.

It took me 10 minutes to officially give up.





It was hours later that I read an e-mail that the person who edited the first chapter sent.  And it contained 4 words.  4 words changed everything.


You have a gift.

4 words.  They could have been any words, in any order, with any meaning, and yet they were the words I needed to hear the most.

So, as I am sure you could have guessed, I am replacing the 2 words I came up with (I quit!) with 5 new words - I will never give up!

Ever.

So let this post remind you that you never know what or who your words will inspire!!  So Thank you, anonymous editor, I can not thank you enough.

Toni

Tuesday, May 8, 2012

It stared with a little mouse...


The boys and I have been reading E. B. White's Stuart Little. What a joy it's been to see the boys grow to love this story and it's characters.  On the back cover is  Mr. White's bio. At the end is saids: "Mr. White found writing difficult and bad for one's health, but he kept at it even so. He would have liked, more than anything , to be a poet. The poets, he thought, are the great ones. He began Stuart little in the hope of amusing a six-year-old niece of his, be before he had finished it she had grown up and was reading Heimingway."

Even E.B. White struggled with writing! He was a journalist from 1925 to 1943. He wrote all the time and yet it took him 7 years to write and publish Stuart Little.  When it was published in 1945  it got luke warm reviews. It wasn't until 1970 that his book started to receive its due attention. Stuart Little and Charlotte's Web jointly won the Laura Ingalls Wilder Medal.  25 years after Stuart Little was published! 
EVERYBODY struggles! It's really hard to be a writer and it sometimes takes a really long time to complete a manuscript. Everybody has been rejected at some time. Everybody feels like quitting at one time or lets self doubt keep them from starting. 

I also hear a lot of aspiring writers say they would love to write but just feel it's too late. Too late for what?! Live your dreams now! Just take that first step! Write the first chapter! Amazing things will happen if you will just start and once you start-keep going!!! Dreams do come true! Walt Disney was told no one would come to his silly family themed park.  Last quarter Disney Co. made 2.1 billion in profits. Not bad for someone who was told his dream was ridiculous!!!

EVERYBODY struggles! Won't it be great to look back on your struggles and think it was hard but well worth it!


Monday, May 7, 2012

Motivation Monday

"The self is not something ready-made, but something in continuous formation through choice of action."
- John Dewey

Thursday, May 3, 2012

Every Writer Struggles - Even Dean Koontz

I remember my sister-in-law's pep talk like it was yesterday, (oh wait, it was yesterday - only yesterday's was pep talk number two zillion!) Anyway, the FIRST pep talk was about believing in myself and my writing; that I had to at least try to get my book published. I remember paying particular attention to her words, despite the fact that they weren't really sinking in - my sister-in-law is much more confident than I am and I was just trying to be polite and listen.  In the back of my head doubt began to creep in and soon it was snuggled up there with a knitted afghan, refusing to leave.  Looking back now I am certain she could see the doubt through my eyes because she left me with an example.  Dean Koontz.  

I remember her telling me about an interview he did in which he talked about his wife offering to support him while he tried to get published.  (I'm thinking about getting hold of Mrs. Koontz and asking her to support me while I try, but for some reason I don't think my journey will have as much clout!) I remember thinking how great it was that he had a wife who believed in him enough to offer the time to follow his dreams.  I am pretty sure my sister-in-law saw where my doubt-filled mind was headed, so she, ever-so carefully, yet insistently, told me that I needed to give myself a specific amount of time and during that time frame I was NOT aloud to give up! And, thus far, I have heeded her advice!

Today, as I realized I am overwhelmed with work, family and even blogging, I remembered her talk, and I remembered Dean Koontz.  I honestly think that someone was looking out for me today - someone let me remember her talk and Dean's story in order to help me see that even the world's top selling authors struggle and I am not alone (or crazy).

I know that Erika and I spend most of our time blogging about not giving up and believing in yourself (and believe me, it's mostly to serve as a reminder for ourselves) but today I thought it would be appropriate to give you an example of someone else who struggled(es) with rejection and self-doubt.

It's hard to believe that someone who has sold more than 400 million books in 38 language and who has been #1 on the NY Times Best Sellers List 13 times, ever suffered from self-doubt.  But he did.

77 Shadow Street

On Dean's website there are several questions about rejection and I recommend you read them here: Dean Koontz on Rejection
But in case you don't have time, here are my favorite parts.


As a young writer, did you encounter rejection?–Allison, Pennsylvania

I sold the first short story I wrote. Then I received over 75 rejections before making another sale. My first four novels were never published. Later, after I’d been selling genre fiction routinely, I wrote a mainstream novel, ALL OTHER MEN. Editors sent me enthusiastic letters about it, said they loved it, but turned it down because they felt it was too disturbing and too avant garde to be commercial.

You had an agent in your early years tell you that you'd never be a best-selling writer. Did that discourage you or make you more determined to succeed

I have more self-doubt than any writer I’ve ever known. That is one reason I revise every page to the point of absurdity! The positive aspect of self-doubt – if you can channel it into useful activity instead of being paralyzed by it – is that by the time you reach the end of a novel, you know precisely why you made every decision in the narrative, the multiple purposes of every metaphor and image. Having been your own hardest critic you still have dreams but not illusions.


So I figure if Dean Koontz "has more self-doubt than any writer I've ever known" (obviously he hasn't met me!), then I am in good company, the kind of company that keeps you going - and definitely keeps you from giving up!

Tuesday, May 1, 2012

Warm fuzzies...

Occasionally my sweet husband and I discuss topic ideas for the blog.  He suggested this one about the power of words and I asked if he won't mind writing it:  


When Erika and I were planning our wedding, I wisely let her take the lead and just did everything she asked me.  I didn't have any goals for the wedding other than to be married to her.  When it came down to picking wedding rings, I hadn't thought very much about it.  She asked me what I wanted and found myself at a loss.  I don't know anything about jewelry.  I don't usually like jewelry.  I don't even wear a watch.  I prefer to keep things as simple as possible.  When she insisted on some details, I dug deep and decided it should not be gold, should be really durable, be very simple, and comfortable.  


In the end, she helped me pick out a simple stainless steel band with a comfort fit.  I loved it.  Marriage is an important covenant to me, so I didn't want to take this ring off, not matter what I did.  Thanks to Erika's guidance, I have a ring that I don't have to ever take off.

But I do take it off for brief moments.  Sometimes it's just to make sure my fingers haven't become too fat.  Sometimes I do it when I am nervous and need to do something with my hands.  But the main reason I take it off is to see the jewel in my ring.  My ring was very inexpensive by ring standards.  But when she ordered it, she added the part that makes this ring mean the world to me.  When I take the ring off I look at the inside of ring and see the inscription: "All my love for eternity".  That is the jewel in my ring.  The item of incredible value.  Reading those words fills me with warm fuzzies.

This is why I admire the writing profession so much!  You can capture and express ideas, emotions, and concepts in a way that can be shared not just once, but over and over.  So while you are battling against distractions or gathering motivation, remember the importance of you work. Remember words can change a life.


Ben Bushman